(Welcome to Day 1 of a 31 day challenge to write 500 words or more. For more on that click here: goinswriter.com)
Running together is like, his least favorite thing to do. But talking while running is worse which usually means I promise not to talk to him if we run together.
Yet, my loving husband found himself on a run with his wife NOT listening to his podcast like he prefers but instead, once again was helping me process how to be more productive with my work/life balance.
He was encouraging me while doing the thing he least loves, twice over.
You see, I was yet again discouraged and hard on myself for not staying on task and in return not making very much progress to my to-do list. It’s not the first time we have had this conversation and in fact, I thought I WAS doing well at it. That morning, instead of writing, I found myself finishing my Christmas Card list, Christmas shopping, and spent way to much time on my phone.
How did I get distracted when I had started with such good intentions?
We work backwards…
How did I start on the Christmas Card list? I was looking for Christmas gift and remembered I needed to send the card list to my sister.
How did I think about the Christmas gifts? Jason has sent me text message thanking me for taking care of the gifs.
Message = Trigger
Ugh. Totally not his fault.
But really what has started this problem was I was ALREADY distracted before starting to write. WHY? My phone. I usually bring my phone out of my room and jump straight onto everything that I missed while I was sleeping 9 hours ahead of the states.
Real Trigger = Opening my phone before I finish my morning routine.
Other Trigger = NOT moving from my reading chair to my work area.
So we had this conversation about creating routines and systems to help me ‘have a plan’ and ‘know exactly what do to’.
Here are the questions that continually plague my mind:
How does a distracted and jumbled mind work productively?
How do you move past feelings to do your hard projects?
How do you tackle projects that seem too big to manage?
What is the trigger to keep me from doing the things I need to do? Is it environment? Is it my phone? Do I just say yes to every thought that comes to mind?
How do you move past wanting to take care of tasks that trigger my thoughts… that I want to do but can wait until later?
It seems SOOOO SIMPLE.
Just do them…
Just start your big project…
Just forget about feelings and move forward.
But sometimes it IS NOT ENOUGH.
Sometimes, we are, *um* I am like a 5-year-old and can’t seem to resist the temptations, like NOT looking at my phone… or Instagram… or anything else.
So you know what? I am starting to put the Triggers out of hands reach.
What does that even mean?
Here are a few guidelines I will work on to help create triggers and boundaries:
I will leave my phone in my room until I finish my morning routine and 1-hour writing.
I will start my writing at my desk or dining table.
I will start changing environments for different task –
- Consider using a coffee shop right after Turkish lessons to do my homework so I don’t put it off.
- Consider another writing location for Monday’s and Friday when I do most of my writing.
I will create a task list the night before to know what my next morning will look like
I will place that task list in front of me so I know what my top 3 are for the day.
I will have a list of random thoughts that come to mind while I am working.
Who’s with me???
Questions for you:
Who else has this problem?
Who will keep me accountable?
What tips do you have for me?